In the midst of heartbreak, we can find solace in the aftermath of the heartbreak. You may hurt at first, but in the end, you can see it as a benefit to yourself to have gotten through such heartbreak. Love and heartbreak go hand in hand. Not all love stories turn into heartbreak, but that without pushing past the fear of heartbreak can you find love. One thing I do know is giving your love away can be hard, giving your heart even harder. But one thing that I have learned through my experiences is that heartbreak is always a possible outcome of love. But life without love is a…

I have to apologize for skipping my blog posting on Sunday. I had to spend my day at a hospital, but all is well now. As I was there for hours, it did make me think of how much hustle goes on at a hospital that people may not inquire to see what kind of good can come from a place like this. And yes it was a long and tiresome journey, it was also an eye-opener on certain factors in life. Take an older couple that I watched as I waited on my turn, how they were in for just one person but they stayed together and leaned on…

In my previous blog I vaguely mentioned how love has sort of changed with technology, but the root of love is still the same. What has changed is not the love itself but how we approach finding love. I do believe this is something worth knowing. Technology has allowed us access to more people, which allows us to find many people to find love with. In many ways, this is good because we can meet more people and have a better sense of what it is we want in our partner. However, there is a drawback, such as with more access to people it is harder to actually find love,…

Sorry for not posting a blog yesterday, but I have trouble with my computer and the internet. It does make me think of how with technology changes so do certain ideas and methods that we find love. It is quite fascinating how love may remain the same but how we see it and approach it and find it can change over time. When back in the 1800s people went to balls to find their partners and now we go on apps to find love. But one thing that remains the same is that we all want to find love. It is a part of humanity, a part of us all,…

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were. Richard Bach This quote expresses the idea of if you truly love someone and they love you if you set them free then they should come back to you. But I would say this would depend on circumstance. Because sometimes a good fight is what is needed and sometimes letting go is better for you. It all comes down to the circumstance of what is between the two people. Can two people who are truly in love end up far apart for a time and come back together? Yes, I do…

Love is so much more than what a person can think. Sometimes it is indescribable. But what makes a difference between it being love and not just lust? As I have written in prior blogs, there are many ways to see love and to know if it’s true love and not lust. One thing that shows love is honesty in all things. But this honesty needs to be attached to being understanding when there is a misunderstanding. This means that you have to be able to admit when you make a mistake or misunderstand. Love is learning and growing with another person, not just pushing the other to change or…

There is more to love than what is in the bible verse. I find that so much more needs to be discussed what love is. One thing that is not widely discussed that true love is, is having someone else complicate your life. Because essentially that is what love is. When you love another, you allow the other person’s wants and needs to fill into your life which can complicate your life. But when there is love, this is not a burden, it is desired. You will not be angry or impatient because the love that you have for the other person is far grander than any complication and allows…

True love can make people do crazy things but essentially will come down to wanting to be and do the best for another. True love has the desire to protect and to trust. Even if things are going badly or there are things out of the person’s control, true love hopes and perseveres through the worse of times. I like to use this idea in my writing because it can give a deeper level to the love that can be between two people, who have to overcome a great deal of obstacles to be able to be together. This I find is one of the staples in writing romance novels,…

Love is many things but it isn’t self-seeking or selfish. When there is true love between two people, there is no I when thinking of the other person. However, people do not always understand what is selfish and self-seeking and what isn’t. wanting time for yourself is not selfish. Wanting to do things for yourself isn’t selfish or self-seeking. We need time for ourselves so we can fill ourselves with love to give to others. Allowing our partner time is important. And this is where sometimes love is not there. When you have problems with your partner going to spend time with themselves, this would be being selfish and self-seeking…

Certain things are not considered love and when a person exhibits these characteristics, it may mean that they do not really love. Envy: wanted what another person has. It is a pillar of not love. Therefore if a person envies the other that they claim to love, it isn’t true love. Boasting and being proud, but are also good indicators of no love. However, there is a difference between being proud of yourself and your accomplishments and being just proud. It is okay to be proud of oneself but when you become overly proud and push onto others what you have done, that is when it goes too far. These…