• Christmas 2021

    As plans are being made for Christmas, I have come across many people who want to go back to how things were, to the old traditions. I have nothing against that. I love old traditions. But I find that after the year we had, it’s time to think a bit different when it comes to, well, about anything, which means about Christmas too. I mean, I love Christmas, all of it, but I find that Christmas is not just about old traditions but also about founding new traditions.  At my home, every year, I do some traditional things, like putting candy canes on my tree for my kids to steal…

  • Christmas time

    As we start the month of December and Christmas is coming, everyone is rushing to get decorations, presents, and food done for Christmas. And I am just as much a culprit in this seasonal behavior. But I love Christmas. It is my most favorite time of year. It is also one of the most romantic times of the year. And I know some people will say it’s not, but nothing can be more romantic than Christmas time for me. The movies, the fireplaces, the curling up with a loved one sipping hot chocolate, what could be better.  Christmas time is a time for joy and happiness. It is a time…

  • Upcoming book

    I have an upcoming book, and it is a Christmas romance. It deals with a woman who has been through so much and who, at a young age, took in her half-siblings to raise them as her own. She has been through so much and does not believe that she can have love in her life. Yet love finds her. I love this book because it is all about love at Christmas, one of the most romantic times of the year. I hope people read my book and enjoy it.

  • Person-centered or pleasure centered

    When it comes to love, how you approach the other person tells a lot to you, whether it is love or lust. Love is all about the other person. Therefore person-centered is what makes them happy. However, lust is all about pleasure. Therefore pleasure-centered is what makes me happy. The easiest way of seeing this is looking at what the person is doing, whether or not they are doing things to make their partner happy or themselves happy. This does not mean that a person cannot focus on what makes them happy, but they will do their best to make their partner happy. This is love. Because love makes you…

  • Temporary or forever

    True love never really dies. It can be put aside, it can be let go of, and it can be one-directional. But it doesn’t fully ever die, and love is forever. As lust is temporary, lust can come and go as fast or slow as it pleasures to do. This can create difficulties in love and lust, for how do we know if it’s a long-term lust or a love that had to be let go? The difference is that love will stay within each person even if that person was not meant for us. We cannot stop caring about the person. It is not in our nature to do…

  • Sexual object

    Oftentimes love, and lust can be hard to define. Yet, one straightforward way to see a difference is to look at how your partner treats you. Are you their sexual object? This is a case that people tend not to realize. What does this mean, being a sexual object? It means that something or someone is looked at as a method of sexual intent from a person. This means to me that your partner sees you as a sex thing. However, this can result in small forms, such as them seeing you as fulfilling their needs only. This is what lust is all about, self-gratification. As for love, your partner…

  • Commitment or unattached?

    One way to see a difference between love and lust is whether or not there is a commitment. Commitment means in some form or fashion that the two people involved who love each other are committed to each other, growing and learning together. When there is no commitment, it means one or both people are unattached and that does not create love. Lust is when people are unattached. Lust is all about self gratifications. Lust means unattached to the other. What makes love and lust sometimes hard to figure out is that they can be one-sided. This means that one of the two people is in love and the other…

  • Disappointment

    When it comes to love and lust, disappointment can be a factor. However, there is more disappointment I find that comes from lust especially when there is lust one way and love coming from the other way. When I talk about disappointment, I am not talking about outside factors but what is between the two people. Disappointments are a part of life, but should not be a part of a relationship. This means you may at times feel disappointed by something that your partner does, but if there is true love between the two people, then the partner will try to change and grow, which makes the disappointment lessened and…

  • Joy and love

    Joy is a big factor in everyone’s life. People want to have joy, yet sometimes joy can be lacking in our life. True love that is between two people brings joy. The key to this joy is to have true love and to have it go in both directions. Sometimes joy is not there because one of the two people is not in it for love but lust. Lust brings in temporary happiness, but cannot bring joy for lust leaves a person empty. Now what comes to my mind is the difference between happiness and joy. Yes in many ways these are two words that have many similarities but are…

  • Trust

    In the world of defining love and lust, trust becomes a huge factor. Because with lust it can be complicated, but with love, it is not. Love and trust go hand in hand. When you truly love someone you have a level of trust in them, which allows you to let go of things you hide to yourself and your true self and reflect out. This is what love does. It allows for two people to completely show their true selves and be vulnerable with each other. As for lust, lust is deceiving and yes one person may have a certain level of trust with another, but when lust is…