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  • Fall is Coming

    I am so excited that fall is on its way. In my opinion, it is truly the best time of year. Where the chilly air starts and the leaves start changing color, it is so beautiful. And of course, the start of all the fall flavors and spices in the air. This year, I plan to go out into the country, for that is the best place to experience the beauty of fall. But even if you cannot leave the city, enjoy the crisp air, enjoy the fall flavors, and enjoy the wonders of fall that are to come your way.  Happy fall, everyone.

  • Growing old

    I have seen many couples in my lifetime and one thing I find remarkable is that some make it to old age. It is a beautiful thing to see a couple being together for so long. It is something we should strive for. In a world that is so throw away or we can get something better, we fail to realize the value in keeping what we have or wanting to enjoy what we have. We have become a society that even relationships are disposable and they should not. So when you are thinking that the grass is greener on the other side, take a look at an old couple…

  • The Strength of Love

    Strong love comes with time and with building. You must cultivate the love you have for it to grow and be something unstoppable. I think of my grandparents how they have been with each other for over 60 years and even through hardships and problems within the couple they keep going and still show their love by how much they are always there for each other and looking out for each other. This means to me that love grows, when you are in a relationship you need to let your love between each other grow. You do not bail when things get tough, when there are issues you need to…

  • Love is a Funny Thing

    I have come across something that I find is so rare to have these days, a love so strong that it wants to even stop death from taking them. I never knew love to still be this strong, as I have not been in such a strong loving relationship that I would feel this kind of love. But as I watch my grandfather, who has been with my grandmother for over 60 years, slowly die, I am hit with this wave of love that he has for my grandmother. As much pain and suffering he goes through, he still remains strong and is thinking of his love for my grandmother.…

  • Differences

    I think in life there are two different kinds of partners. There is the person who is always there and the person who is not. This can be seen in many different ways, but in any relationship you either have a partner who is there for you even when times are tough or you have a person who isn’t. But we need to be what we want. It starts by us being the partner who is there for the other. And we need to decide whether we are there and our partner is not, whether we should stick around. I read a quote that I believe is so true, “there…

  • Listening

    It has come to my attention that people do not always understand what it means to actually listen. Listening is more than just paying attention to what is being said and more then just hearing the words. Listening is understanding the feelings behind what is being said. I heard once that someone should listen to understand and not listen to react. This is something we should all try to master. Especially in relationships because listening to understand allows us to move forward in our relationship but listening to react only leaves us with problems. So listen to understand and try to stop yourself from reacting to what is being said.…

  • Growing

    In life we need to grow and mature so we can become the best us we can be. Without growth, there cannot be the best you. This is the same in relationships, if you don’t grow together you will end apart. So we should consider growing as individuals and as a couple for those who are in a relationship. And a part of growing is learning about your faults and being corrected. As a parent corrects their child so they can learn and grow, in life we will be thrown challenges and people that can show us how we can be better or do better. It is important to remember…

  • When Things Go Wrong.

    In relationships things can go wrong, fights can happen, however everyone needs somewhere to fall on. We all need a safe space, people we can rely on and this is never so true when in a relationship. Because you will argue and fight with your partner, you will find things that you don’t care for or disagree with but how to sort it out determines if it is a toxic relationship. How to resolve the fight and not go straight to leaving. Relationships can get rocky, however, we need a safe space to talk, to understand, to get a different perspective. When you cannot go to your partner for advice,…

  • When the Honeymoon Phase is Over

    In life, when in a relationship, we all go through stages. Sometimes we will fight with our partner and sometimes we are over the moon and sometimes it seems as if nothing is there. People tend to forget that when times feel as if you have no feelings for your partner, it is not the time to leave your partner. When we are finding it hard to love our partner this is when true love can emerge, where your relationship can see if it’s meant to be. For if you run and leave every time you feel as if there is nothing there, you will never know if a different…

  • Should You Stay Friends with Your Ex?

    I have been asked this question many times, if two people can remain friends after they break up together. And I know some will, yes it is fine, it’s not a problem. But I say that essentially it is not healthy. When you break up with someone even if it’s an amicable break, both need time to get over and get closure. This is not something you can do if you stay friends. Because when you remain friends with an ex you keep a bit of hope to get back together. Maybe you are not the one to keep this hope, it may be your ex, but one of you…