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Gives and takes
In this love and lust are very much different. While love is giving of yourself, lust takes from the other. When a person has love they want to give all of themselves to the other, to enrich the other person’s life, and to help and be a part of the other’s life. However, lust tends to be more selfish and will take from the other person. Lust is all about what you want and not what the other person needs. Love is all about the other person’s needs and not only your own. This does not mean that your own needs are unmet, but that there is a shared giving…
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Builds and destroys
One of the easiest ways to define the difference between love and lust is that love will build something and lust will destroy. Although lust may not always destroy completely and love can be temporary, this is still a good way to see the difference between the two. Love always builds something between two people that never really goes away. But it does not mean it is a forever thing. Sometimes people we love will come and go in our lives, just think of any friend you had that you really loved, but moved on in life. When I say love builds, it is in a more a relationship kind…
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Love or lust?
How can a person know if it is love or lust? Well, there are many different ways to know. But one thing that is important to do is to be able to take yourself away from the relationship and see it from a different perspective because often people will see things that are not there or not see what is there and I am just as much a culprit as every other person in this world of this. But if we take ourselves outside to a different stance and look at the relationship with an open heart and eye, we can see the truth of what is and what is…
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I am not a quitter
Something that many people do is quit on the idea of love. Well, I am not that way. I do believe that everyone deserves and can have true love in their life. However, sometimes a person needs to see it for what it is. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in lust that we forget what love actually is. Lust can play a huge role in deceiving us of our feelings. So the first thing we need to see and remember is lust. We need to recognize lust and how it can play a huge role in how we approach a person. Lust can be so convincing to being the…
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Second key ingredient
The second ingredient for true romance is importance. Now, what does that mean? Well for me it means the level of importance that one person has in their partner’s mind. this level of importance encourages certain kinds of behaviors which in turn can relate to romance. How much your partner sees value with you in their lives, the more the value the more they will do things without thinking about them. Because true romance is not in the planned events, it is in the small natural behaviors that we do for each other. That is true love and romance. Yes, planned events can be fun, but that can be done…
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First Key ingredient for romance
I find there are two main ingredients that a person wants to invoke romance. Yes, many people will disagree with me here and say passion is the only ingredient, but I see romance as more than just a passion that can be brought out by lust. Some things are only brought out by loving another, which brings out the romance within a person. Buying chocolates and flowers is nice and romantic, but true romance is much more than how much you spend or how much planning is involved in it. It is all about a feeling that you convey to your partner and that feeling can be brought out by…
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Most romantic things
What is the most romantic thing someone has done for you? I can come up with many ideas of what would be romantic, but everyone has their own ideas as to what they see as romantic. Some it is in thoughtful gifts, others in what their partner does for them. However, we all have our definition of what is romantic. But sometimes we see things and one can only say it is romantic. Such as when a guy goes out of his way to do something incredible for his girl or when he treats her like a princess, this cannot be seen as anything other than romantic. Yes sometimes we…
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An interesting quote
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” Dr. Seuss This quote is an interesting one. To think that love would make you not want to sleep, well maybe it could? But this is how I see this. Love makes you want to spend time with that person that you love. And for me, love tends to invade my dreams. So why would I not wish to sleep and keep dreaming of that special someone? But I can see how for some, if they had a horrible time in their life and then suddenly they find love and their life…
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Be joyful
I know this has nothing to do with love, but I like to think that if you have love in your life you are joyful. But for those who do not see love or have that special someone in their life, I find that being joyful can shine through and bring out the best of a person, which can create a pathway to finding your love. But what is being joyful? Does everyone have their own way of seeing joyfulness? I know that I do. Joyful means to me being happy just because you can. To see the little things in life that can bring joy for you. It does…
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Languages in love
Many people have their own ideas of languages in love. There is even a book that explains what are and how love languages work. I like to read many different books about love because books can be useful tools for writing. One book about the love languages that I read, went and showed how love can be shown in five different ways between two people. This concept is interesting and useful in writing because when writing a story, I want to make the interactions between my characters to be realistic. So when two people in my novels come together, they show how they love each other in certain ways, such…
