“You can find something truly important in an ordinary minute.” – For One More Day, Mitch Albom We talk about big moments and being romantic. And as much as these are great to have, it is in the ordinary moments that really can make a love so special. The quote shows that we can find something beautiful in something so ordinary. Because sometimes we need the ordinary in love for everything to be ok. And it is important to not just see the big moments but to see the small, ordinary moments in your relationship that make being together worth it.

I remember when I was young how much my grandparents loved each other. They had something special that we do not see every day. Love is way more than romance and sex. Love comprises so much more. It is when you can put yourself aside for someone, even at the bitter end. My grandparents had this kind of special love. A love so deep that even when my grandfather was in pain and slowly dying, he held on, and with every breath he had, he only wanted to ensure that my grandmother was alright. He never complained about his pain or what he was going through. His thoughts were on…

I am a firm believer that we become what we think, which is why we need to be careful in how we think about ourselves. This can be in both ways, seeing ourselves in a bad light just as much as seeing ourselves in too good a light. In many ways, how we think about ourselves reflects on our behavior and how we approach the world. It takes balance, it takes time thinking and reflecting on how we think we are and what we want to be. It takes growing as a person. In many ways, we tend not to take the time for ourselves to learn and grow to…

As I am sipping my morning coffee today, I am thoughtful about what I have. I am grateful for who and what is in my life, even the challenges in life. I think about my relationship, and even though it’s not always easy, no relationship is. We must try our best to be our best and face all challenges that may come. I do not see myself as a quitter, but I will leave a relationship if it becomes toxic. But I do believe in trying first. There are always red flags in a relationship. It is not about quitting when you see the red flags, but to see if…

“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.” Roy Croft I like this quote. It reminds me of how much, when in a relationship, we need to see how we are when with the individual. We should want the best for our partners and treat them in the same way we would treat ourselves. We should love how we are with the person and not be fake or someone trying to please. To be able to be who we are and be allowed to grow as a person is an important part of accepting in a relationship. Because we…

Love is a precious part of life. I am a firm believer that life without love is no life at all, and a person becomes a very bitter person because they cannot see what they do have in life. After all, there is no love to show them. We all need love, but love comes in different forms. We won’t all have love by a partner in life, and that’s ok, but we still have love of family and friends. Even if we think no one cares, there is always someone out there who does. Even the worst kinda of people, those who stay angry, jealous, or treat people unkindly,…

“I’m just a big believer in ‘you must love yourself before you can love anybody else’ and I think for me that breeds the most inspired relationships.” -Scarlett Johansson  I like this quote because it shows how the way you see yourself can reflect in every aspect of your life. It is true that how you treat yourself will be in consequence how you treat others. However, this may not mean exactly what you think. It means that when you don’t love yourself, you will not be able to love someone else properly. How we see ourselves, such as if we cannot accept who we are as a person, we…

When shit hits the fan, you really learn who is there for you and who isn’t. It can be challenging when you are confronted with a problem, and you expect certain people to be there for you. This is where you learn who actually cares about you and who is only there when things are good. And the most interesting is when it is your partner who doesn’t show up for you. That can be a very rough time because you love them and they are supposed to love you. So when they don’t show up or even indicate that they care, this is something you should evaluate and isn’t…

A question that many ask but no one can quite answer. I say it all depends on how you look at things. Love is a feeling that is hard to define l. Yet it is so very present in everyone’s lives. Because it is hard to define, going in blind is something we all do in some form or fashion. It’s that sensation that we believe so deeply and that caring that we have for someone, whether it is a partner, a friend, or a family member; love is very present and very incredible. So is love blind? I would like to think so. Because in many ways love allows…

I read something that I thought I would share. It was about what love is. I have blogged many times, but I liked this way of seeing things as well, which is why I wanted to share. I will sum it up in my own words. What love is not: validation, attention, control. What love is: care, belief, and consistency. How true these words are. People do not realize that you cannot have one without the other. In life, we are always seeking things because we feel low self-esteem within ourselves. But if you want a true relationship with love, you need to stop seeking things that do not bring…