What makes you truly happy?

This is a question. One that we should ask ourselves as well as our partners: what makes us happy as an individual and as a couple? We tend to treat happiness like a single destination, but it’s actually a dual destination: the country of Me and the country of Us as a couple.

Individual and relationship happiness shouldn’t be competing; they are deeply dependent on one another. No one else is responsible for your happiness. Expecting a partner to fix your bad days sets them up for failure. True joy comes from discovering what fulfills you independently. Self-care is an investment in your partnership.

When two whole individuals come together, they create a third entity: the relationship. Shared happiness requires the intentional creation of connection, safety, and fun.

So you need to do for yourself and for the relationship. You don’t need to lose who you are to love someone. Happiness is about walking side by side with your partner, sharing the journey of life.